Writing About a Strong Woman in Your Family
Did you grow up in the shadow of a great woman? Was she someone that you thought was a real life Superwoman? Could she do things some men couldn’t or wouldn’t do? And better? In a few quick steps you will know how to write about a strong woman in your family.
Recently one of my dearest aunts passed away. I started writing about her this year and was hoping to send her a written account of my memories of her as a way to tell her how much she meant to me.
I never finished putting the words onto paper. They’re all still in my head and in my heart. There is no question that I need to follow through and finish writing my memories of her. It’s something that I believe her children will want to read. So let’s dive right in.
First steps on how to write about a strong woman
- Write her name.
- List your favorite memories of her. Under each memory, write down some of the details of your memory, like what she is wearing, what she is saying or doing and what is happening in the background.
- Write about any difficult times that you saw her struggle and triumph.
- List her talents.
The next generation will want to know about her.
When you write about a strong woman in your family, introduce her to people who have never met her. Think about how you would talk about her if you are sitting at a table and someone asks you if you know her. What would you say? What’s the first story you would tell them?
The current generation will want to remember her.
If the strong woman in your family is so meaningful to you that you want to write about her, then she probably has made an impact on many others as a result of her “super powers”. Write about her with true feelings and honor her with your words and stories.
A strong woman of the past or the present
If she’s still living, your specific memories about a strong woman in your family will bring her honor. If you’ve never told her how much she has impacted your life, it may come as a big surprise to her that you have great admiration for her. Writing about her will be a way of thanking her for all she has done.
If she’s no longer living, your stories and memories of her will be cherished by others who love her as much as you do. You may want to write a ten-page biography of her and add it to your genealogy research. You may want to write out just one memory and send it in a card to someone close to her who is still mourning the loss of not having her in their life anymore.
When, not How
Maybe I should have titled this post “When To Write About A Strong Woman” instead of “How To Write About A Strong Woman”. The loss of my aunt is fresh in my mind. I think of her everyday and feel that I failed her by not writing to her and telling her all of the things that she did that made me so proud of her.
I’ll follow the steps I’ve listed above. I’ll write her name, “Rose”. What an altogether appropriate name for her! She was the strongest woman I knew. Like the rose in the garden, she was tough on the outside – in such a beautiful way.
Making time to write about a strong woman or any other relative is something you should start today. You can also make time for a family history interview by following my ideas here.
Who are the strong women in your family? Whether you write a quick note only one paragraph long or if you write pages, there is something special that you can tell others. For another perspective of a family with strong women, read what Michelle Sanchez has to say about her Family of Strong Women.
Write about a strong woman in your family. If you have the chance to share your story with her, do it! If she is not with us anymore, share it with her loved ones. She lived a life worth remembering.